Having Children: God’s Plan vs. My Plan
This is a piece of my content originally posted on Married & Young: Having Kids – God’s Plan vs. My Plan
When my husband and I first got married, we thought for sure we would wait to have kids. We wanted to enjoy our time together with just the two of us before we jumped into parenting. Also, we definitely wanted to establish some things in life like: schooling, jobs, finances, setting a good foundation in the first few years of marriage, buying a house, getting a new car and the list went on and on. We really just wanted to get a handle on how to live and love as a new married couple before we threw children in the mix.
However, let me just tell you God had other plans! Three months into our “five-year-plan” I got pregnant. I was quite shocked when the pregnancy test read positive and I really had to rethink who God was in my life, and in my marriage.
Don’t get me wrong, I understood children were a blessing & reward from God, but I was barely acquainted with becoming a wife when I had to learn how to become a mother as well. It was quite daunting to think about, but God never once left my husband and I in the wilderness to figure this out on our own.
No matter what “plan” you have for having children, you really are not in control.
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. (Psalm 139:16 NIV)
I am thankful I figured this out during my first pregnancy because seven months after my first daughter was born I became pregnant with our second. Neither were perfectly calculated into our calendars or careers, yet God still had a perfect plan for our family. No matter how tough the finances looked, no matter how long the sleepless nights were, and no matter how much we doubted ourselves, God provided every last thing we needed.
Sometimes it is worth letting go of the reigns and letting God take control. He really does know what He is doing even when we don’t.
My advice and prayer for you is this: If you are newly married and entering parenthood around the same time, remember God’s grace is sufficient. It is not easy taking on two tasks at once but your faith will be made stronger for doing so. From reading scripture, and personal experience, God will never abandon you no matter how impossible things look. Have faith that God has a plan for your marriage and for the new child you inherited.
It really does not matter when you “plan” to have children, you are never as ready you want to be. Trust that God is in control and in His perfect timing all things will come to pass.