Don’t Let Your Finances Cause The Holiday Blues In Your Marriage
Holiday’s like Christmas can be some of the most joyous times for a young married couple. Experiencing some of your “firsts” together and creating traditions is always fun.
Being married and young is also a time where you discover you may not necessarily always have the financial means to have the kind of Christmas you were use to when you were single.
I know for me, before I was married I always made sure my family had my “wish list” and I had theirs. The majority of my income earned during the holiday season went towards finding gifts for my family and friends. And, I also made sure I found some really nice gifts for myself. My husband was also very accustom to waking up on Christmas morning with a mound full of gifts awaiting him.
Can I just say, we have not had a “mound” of anything since we have been married. I say that with a laugh because we have quickly realized those elaborate Christmases are something in the past for us right now.
If you are married and young and facing this hard realization, don’t let the holiday blues get you down. A lot of young married couples are finishing college, starting new careers, raising children and basically discovering a whole new season of life for the first time. All of these things all of the sudden take priority over spending tons of money on one holiday.
The first year my husband and I were married we had only been moved home from college for a few months. My husband had only just recently found a job and I had been put on bed rest for the last month of my pregnancy leaving me without work. Money was more than tight, it was basically non existent.
Choices To Be Made
At this point my husband and I had a choice to make. We could both be upset that we would have no money to buy gifts for our families or ourselves. We could be stressed showing up to family gatherings empty handed. And, we could mope around Christmas morning disappointed we did not get new pj’s.
Or, we could cling to one another. It was not easy realizing we were not going to have the kind of Christmas we were accustom to. And, I would be lying if I said we didn’t share a few tears together. However, we saw how truly blessed we were. If nothing else, we had each other and we decided that was enough. We also ended up spending the three days leading up to Christmas in the hospital delivering our first baby girl.
My husband and I came home on Christmas Eve to our little apartment with our new baby girl. I went upstairs to take a shower. When I came down my husband had sweetly wrapped our daughter in a blanket, placed her in a little box and placed a bow around her. It was the best gift that has ever been placed under our tree.
I tell you that story because I want to encourage married and young couples. I want to encourage you to look for what truly matters this Christmas, and it is not determined by the number in your bank account. Whether you are able to elaborately celebrate this holiday season or not, what matters most is that you have each other. If you are feeling disappointed in something share your feelings with one another and face this season together. Change can be hard sometimes. It can be in those challenging moments though where you and your spouse have the opportunity to grow closer together.
Remember, Christmas is a time to celebrate the life and birth of Jesus Christ. It is also a time to be thankful that God has birthed new life into your marriage as well. If you decide with your spouse this season to accept this truth, I guarantee you can beat the ‘Holiday Blues’.